Six years ago, when I met my husband for the first time, I never thought our relationship could be the sweetest thing that could happen in my life. But it is, and it would be forever…
We met, became friends, knew we could help each other spiritually, and vowed to be the best companions till death. And the story wasn’t always romantic, and joyful. We had our ups and downs, failures, struggles, arguments, and it was part of the game. We endured and came out through it because we have lifted up each other always. And still doing the same… 🙂
Couples who pray together stay together
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)
And this was so true in our lives, and there was one more powerful weapon that our Lord gave us.
For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them. (Mathew 18:20)
The word of God says if “two of you on the earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you”.
This is a promise, and if you both pray for each other, lift each other up, God will protect your marriage from all evil.
Tip 1: You (husband and wife) is powerful when you are together.
Tip 2: Always lift up the companion when they are down, comfort them, and pray together.
Love your husband unconditionally
We all need that close friend just to be with us when we are down, and low in spirit. And as we know sacrifices are inevitable in marriage and we all have to lay all those small-small sacrifices on the altar to move ahead without any bitterness.
Last week, we argued, and our argument continued because of one silly thought –” he doesn’t understand me…”
Yeah, “He doesn’t understand me”, and it took longer for me to teach myself that He would not be able to understand everything about me because He is a man, and I am a woman.. 🙂
What do you say? Have you ever felt the same at least once?
Tip 3: Marriage intimacy or bonding paves the way for the next level of friendship which requires total acceptance of the differences.
Tip 4: True intimacy and friendship in marriage happen when the differences are offered on the altar as a sweet sacrifice.
Start your day with a prayer
Sometimes the most neglected but the most powerful thing to do is pray. Prayer keeps you from sinning and protects you from all the snares of the enemy.
“Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” (1 Peter 5:8)
“Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.” (Mathew 26:41)
Apostle Paul, even as a great man of God struggled in his flesh ( Romans 7:14-23), but he never stopped running the race.
“Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 3:13-14)
As wives, mothers, and in all other different roles as a woman, there may be areas where you have slipped or drifted away. It is okay, and it is going to be okay if you are ready to be renewed in your prayer life, claim the precious blood of the lamb, and believe in His saving grace.
No sin is more powerful than the blood of Jesus Christ shed on the the cross of calvary. Believe in Him and He will wipe away your tears.
So, are you ready to start a new day with 100% prayer and supplications, and with zero worries???
Am set for it, what about you??? 🙂
Tip 5: Cultivate a new habit of praying for even the smallest need that arises in your marriage/family life.
Rebuilding intimacy in marriage
Is intimacy something to be cultivated? May not be always, but sometimes, YES!
A gentle touch can confirm you still care for him after a serious argument.
Preparing His favorite food when he comes home confirm you still give value to his preferences.
A simple silence when he completely opposes your opinions confirm you still approve his leadership.
Respecting your husband before others confirm you love and admire his words.
A kiss on His forehead and a hug confirm him that he is your favorite even after having many kids.
Enjoy and experience intimacy in all the levels, physical, emotional, and spiritual. Always remember it is God who ordained us to be together and be one.
But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. (Mark 10:7,8)
Prioritize our life to be faithful to what we have been separated to, and what we have been separated for, as the child of God.
The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (1 Corinthians 7: 4,5)
Tip 6: Sow the seeds of intimacy which are kindness, gratitude, care, love, respect, affection, and more.
Improve your prayer life
Most of the women have a long list which mentions the sacrifices they have done for the husband, children, relatives etc. At the end of the day, it is filled with regrets, discontentment, and dissatisfaction about the life.
We know Christianity talks about the sacrificial love that radiates to others. But what if your heart is filled with bitterness and frustrations which does not propagate God’s love but mere dead actions.
Recently, I met a mom of four children who doubt her productiveness even after taking care of a farm, her family, and the only reason she feels so is she doesn’t go for a job. And I spoke to a working mom who struggles in her mind as she has to leave her 3-month-old baby and start working.
And I was once again reminded of having a clear perspective on life, to be renewed in our inner mind and thoughts, and to replenish the vacuum in our hearts with prayer and supplications to Lord, and experience the peace that calms every turmoil.
If you are ready to fill your cup with divine peace and understanding, He will take care of the rest.
Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 3:5-7)