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When it comes to marriage, I feel I haven’t yet learned to keep it more lovely and vibrant. Even though I wish to have always the beautiful spring season, sometimes it shows me all the seasons of life. I appreciate those who are great in their marriage life, and for me, it is either excellence or failure. I don’t believe God wishes me to have a dull marriage life, He is the father of excellence and has ordained marriage and found it good. But does this mean marriage is perfect from day one? I don’t believe there would be a single person who is experiencing such a wonderful life from the start, at least if they are not pretending! Then what is the secret for a successful marriage life? How can we pursue a happy married life? Let us meditate on some bible verses to overcome discouragement in marriage.
The most vulnerable thing that can fragment the vows of marriage is differences in opinion. We cannot have everything, but we can have control over what we decide to possess or lose. In one of my post, the beauty of a submissive wife, I tried to explain how the act of submission can transform marriage life. It is not easy, and I am again saying, submission is hard for me too!
And one of the bible verse I would like to mediate about submission is John 12:24, “Very truly I tell you, unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies, it remains only a single seed. But if it dies, it produces many seeds”. Jesus might not have used this verse in the context of submission. But it is one of my favorite verse from the bible that I would like to uphold in my Christian walk.
How to work out differences in opinion? I am not ready to believe marriage life has zero friction. And this friction happens when there is a conflict between differences in ideas, perspectives or even the personalities. So, it is evident that when two people are getting married, all the conflicts as mentioned above can happen. But how can we tackle these specific issues that can eventually take away the happiness from marriage? Marriage is beautiful when two people are submitting to each other, considering one other’s interests more than their own. But there are certain situations when this yielding may not work out, and we try to defend our views. And what would be the possible outcome? The deceiver easily takes out the beauty from this divine call and leaves it barren.
So, what is the solution?
What is my role in marriage?
But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God. (1 Corinthians 11:3)
- Be the leader of your family (1 Corinthians 11:3)
- Treat your wife equal as there is no difference between male or female in the eyes of God (Galatians 3:28)
- Love your wife unconditionally as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25)
- Express your love through words and actions (1 John3:18)
- Serve your wife in her daily needs as Jesus was ready to take up the role of a servant (Mathew 20:28)
- Meet the needs of the family (1 Timothy 5:8)
- Allow your husbands to be the leader of the family (1 Corinthians 11:3)
- Even though men and women are equal in the eyes of God, women are created to help husbands to be the man God destined him to be ( Genesis 2:18)
- Love your husband and submit to him as you do to the Lord (Ephesians 5:22)
- Express your love through respecting and submitting to his leadership (Colossians 3:18)
- Serve your husband as Jesus was ready to take up the role of a servant (Mathew 20:28)
- Wives need to primarily take care of the needs of the family and support husbands (Titus 2:5), ( Proverbs 10:10-31)
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It is easy to read and understand our role in marriage, but how many of us really try to achieve the life God wants us to enjoy. Hardly few, and nowadays, the issues that are infiltrating to destroy many marriages are alarmingly high.
Before listing out the verses to fight discouragement in marriage, I would like to remind you about the greatest commandment in the bible without which no one can please God.
Our God is not only a sovereign power who is listening to our prayers, but He is a father who is looking for people who loves Him wholeheartedly, even in the worst situations, in thankfulness, by trusting Him.
“Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?
Jesus replied: ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’
This is the first and greatest commandment.
And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbour as yourself.’
All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” (Mathew 22:36-40)
15 Bible verses to fight discouragement in marriage
Holding on to marriage is a decision, but it can be easily dismantled if you are discouraged and fed up with the idea of living together. We might be knowing so many theories to keep marriage fruitful but what is the most critical requirement for beautiful married life? It is the presence of God which can only be attained by repenting on our sins and asking His presence in our married life.
“…and when you and your children return to the LORD your God and obey him with all your heart and with all your soul according to everything I command you today, then the LORD your God will restore your fortunes and have compassion on you and gather you again from all the nations where he scattered you.” (Deuteronomy 30:2-3)
Sometimes we feel we know everything to keep our marriage alive and vibrant. It might end up with encouragement too. Ask the one who gives wisdom to those who seek, if you feel insufficient to handle the responsibilities in marriage.
“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”(James 1:5)
Tired and weary of your marriage life? Are you ready to walk with Jesus to save your marriage life?
“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”(Galatians 6:9)
Are you overwhelmed by the difficulties you face in your family life? Never forget you have Jesus as your saviour, redeemer to help you.
“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”(Isaiah 41:10)
Do you believe Jesus can restore your shattered marriage? He can, and He will if you believe. There is nothing impossible for Jesus.
“Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but not with God; all things are possible with God.”” (Mark 10:27)
There are moments in our lives when we feel like running away from everything, and every haunting memories that are discouraging us. But you cannot hide from the one who loves you. He will guide you even when everything around you is crumbling down.
“Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence? If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there. If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast.” (Psalm 139: 7-10)
“Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.” (Psalm 23:4)
Are you worried and discouraged? Are you filled with questions why this is happening to me alone? You can find the answer to all your questions, and the balm that can soothe your wounded heart at the feet of Jesus.
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6-7)
You might be alone in your fight for marriage! And your husband hardly appreciates the efforts and sacrifices you do for your family. You might be anxious thinking whether this wait is worth or not! It might take time, but if you wait patiently, you will see the redeeming power of God in your life. Prepare for the battle, the Lord Himself will fight for you.
“The LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still.” (Exodus 14:14)
“For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.”(2 Timothy 1:7)
Where can you get the strength you need to overcome the challenges of your life? How can you soar high even when you find several things on your way to make you depressed?
“My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth. He will not let your foot slip– he who watches over you will not slumber; indeed, he who watches over Israel will neither slumber nor sleep.” (Psalm 121: 2-4)
“With your help I can advance against a troop; with my God I can scale a wall.” (Psalm 18:29)
“The horse is made ready for the day of battle, but victory rests with the LORD.” (Proverbs 21:31)
Your present situation may be hopeless and questionable by many around you. But are you ready to claim the promise of the one who won’t change His word and loves you?
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”. (Jeremiah 29:11)
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28)
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